What if you could have a healthy relationship with your parents…
What if you could rebuild a healthy relationship with your parents — even after hurt, silence, or years of control?
For most of my life, my parents believed it was their duty to oversee my choices and keep me accountable.
I lived under their authority until I finally removed myself from it.
The more I shared, the more conflict there was.
But hiding who I was only left me suffocating.
Being around them felt like constant stress — my body tense, my mind on high alert.
The breaking point came after I had my son.
Postpartum depression left me barely functioning. And in that fog, I realized: I couldn’t be both the daughter they wanted and the mother I wanted to be.
So I took the hardest step: six months of no contact.
At the time, it felt unbearable — they couldn’t see their new grandson, and we lived just miles apart.
But within weeks, the noise in my head quieted. For the first time in my life, I felt space. Power. My own alignment.
Here’s what I did that helped me rebuild over the past four years:
Took space — even if it meant months of no contact. That wasn’t abandonment. That was reclaiming my power.
Reconnected slowly — I started only with my mom for the first year.
Set clear boundaries early — I asked her not to send Bible verses, church songs, or religious gifts.
Gave it time — rebuilding wasn’t quick. It took four years.
Found the overlap — relationships don’t have to match perfectly. They just need a shared Venn diagram: where your alignment meets theirs.
Now, four years later, our relationship is not perfect. But it is healthy.
I connect with them on the things I can connect with them on. With my mom, it’s watercolors and art. With my dad, it’s AI and entrepreneurship.
The moment I realized I had reached a turning point was last Christmas, when they stayed in my house for five days. I felt flow in my body — ease I had never experienced before with them. I was proud of myself. Empowered.
I don’t have a specific trajectory of where it will go. But I will continue to connect with them in the deepest way possible — in the places we overlap, in the spaces where love can flow.
If you’re in this place now, here’s what I want you to know:
You don’t need your parents in your life to be happy.
But if you want to rebuild, it is possible.
It might take space, boundaries, patience, and years. But it can happen.
Imagine your life with less family stress, fewer conflicts, and more peace.
Imagine standing in your own power, while also finding the places you can connect.
If this is what you want, I can help.
Book a call with me here.
May something align effortlessly for you today,
Lea
